I know there are things in our lives that we have to tolerate. To find the silver lining to avoid spiraling into a sea of negative emotions and feelings.
But there are also a lot of things that we are tolerating that we do have control over.
What we don’t realize is that every time we walk by something or experience something we know we want to change or do, its draining our energy.
Sometimes its as simple as just moving something out of the way. We keep tripping over it or hitting our legs on it and every time we think, “I need to move that.” And we don’t.
And so the next day its the same thing. We bump into it and we think “I really need to move that.” And the cycle continues. And although its bother us and we can do something about it. We don’t.
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Have you ever heard the saying, “how you do one thing is how you do everything?
When we are tolerating things, it start to flow on to other parts of our lives. Tolerating bad behavior in a relationship, tolerating a messy home, tolerating people crossing our boundaries.
And it comes to a point that we are so used to it. We may not even realize this is what we have been tolerating. It just seems normal. That things are just supposed to be this way or they have always been this way. So we don’t even see it as a problem.
The truth is, it is a problem. Because you’re mind is constantly thinking about it. About how this behavior, this situation, this mess is bothering you. And every time you see it, every time you walk by it, its a reminder.
Our mind can’t be a peace.
It begins to make us feel like our life is out of control. Because all of these little things start adding up. And we start to feel overwhelmed and helpless.
How can we really start something new when we have all these little reminders that things are less than ideal in our lives?
I think its really important take inventory on what is going on in your life that you are tolerating and start to clean them up before we can actually commit to starting something new.
Because how can we really want to change and be able to stick to this change if everything around us is the same. If we are continuing to tolerate things in our lives.
Now thats not to say that you can’t make changes without doing this. But its a lot easier when your mind is not focusing on a bunch of tiny little things you want to do or get done while starting this new thing.
Sometimes making the decision to make the change to start that new workout routine, to start this new business venture propels you forward to take on those small little tasks. But as you start these new things, the feeling of overwhelm can start take place because as we start to add more to our lives, the realization comes that we have less time to do it all.
So how can you start taking control over the things you are tolerating?
Write it down. Think about your life and what you keep reminding yourself about.
Habits– eating habits, sleeping habits, spending habits, sedentary habits, health habits
Home-unifshined tasks around the house, clutter, disorganized drawers, dust, bill pile up etc.
People– overstepping your boundaries, people who drain you, poor communication, people you’ve outgrown
Work-email inbox, messy desk, overworking, being burnt out.
Once you have a list, its time to start tackling them.
Like I say all of the time, start small. Pick the easiest ones to cross off your list. As you start to gain the momentum and like you have a grasp on it all, you can move on to the bigger things. Give yourself time and a deadline. Slowly but surely, you’ll get them all off of your list.
Your mind will be clear and clutter free and you will realize how much better and in control of your life that you will feel. And you will no longer have a habit of tolerating the things you can control.
If you know you have been tolerating a lot of things in your life, but don’t know how to grasp on it all. Let me help support you. You are worthy of a more peaceful life.
